Self-esteem : Your armour in life

Self Esteem seems to be lacking in so many, yet there is no reason for this. Getting past the negatives and realizing that you are an awesome person will allow you to move on and improve your life and lifestyle.



When you work in a competitive environment and face an overwhelming workload, how do you stay calm, composed and maintain self-esteem? It's easy to feel overwhelmed by the sheer amount of relevant information available. This article should help you focus on the central points. Here are some tips you may consider as a starter guide to improving self-esteem in a tough environment,


Imagine yourself as a dartboard. Everything and everyone else around you may become dart pins, at one point or another. These dart pins will destroy your self-esteem and pull you down in ways you won't even remember. Don't let them destroy you, or get the best of you. So which dart pins should you avoid?


Dart Pin #1: Negative Work Environment

Beware of a working place where everyone else is fighting just to get ahead. This is where non-appreciative people usually thrive. No one will appreciate your contributions even if you miss lunch and dinner, and stay up late. Most of the time you get to work too much without getting help from people concerned. Stay out of this, it will ruin your self-esteem. Competition is at stake anywhere. Be healthy enough to compete, but in a healthy competition that is.


Dart Pin #2: Other People's Behavior

Naysayers, gossipmongers, backstabbers, controllers, complainers, exploders, all these kinds of people will pose bad vibes for your self-esteem, as well as to your self-improvement scheme.


Dart Pin #3: Past Experience

It's okay to cry and say "ouch!" when we experience pain. But don't let pain transform itself into fear. It might grab you by the tail and swing you around. Treat each failure and mistake as a lesson.


Dart Pin #4: Negative World View

Look at what you are looking at. Don't wrap yourself up with all the negativities of the world. In building self-esteem, we must learn how to make the best out of the worst situations.


Dart Pin #5: Determination Theory

The way you are and your behavioural traits are said to be a mixed end product of your inherited traits (genetics), your upbringing (psychic), and your environmental surroundings such as your spouse, the company, the economy or your circle of friends. You have your own identity. If your father is a failure, it does not mean you have to fail too. Learn from other people's experience, so you'll never have to encounter the same mistakes.


Being positive is a choice!

Sometimes, you may wonder if some people are born leaders or positive thinkers. NO. Being positive, and staying positive is a choice. Building self-esteem and drawing lines for self-improvement is a choice, not a rule or a talent.


Wear your bulletproof armour

In life, it is hard to stay tough especially when things and people around you keep pulling you down. When we get to the battlefield, we should choose the right luggage to bring and armours to use, and pick those that are bulletproof. Life's options give us arrays of more options. Along the battle, we will get hit and bruised. And wearing bulletproof armour ideally means "self-esteem".


Building self-esteem will eventually lead to self-improvement if we start to become responsible for who we are, what we have and what we do. It is like a flame that should gradually spread like a brush fire from inside and out. When we develop self-esteem, we take control of our mission, values and discipline. Self-esteem brings about self-improvement, true assessment, and determination. So how do you start putting up the building blocks of self-esteem?


Be positive. Be contented and happy. Be appreciative.